my favorite part of every monster factory is when griffin and justin start wheezing so hard and laughing so high-pitched, they just start fucking echolocating
Not too long ago, my friend Bella came out as aromantic to me, and now I’ve got some things to say.
I was the one who told her what aromantic means, because I was explaining different sexual orientations to her. I remember saying, “Asexualiy is when you have romantic attraction, but no sexual attraction.”
Bella immedently, without missing a beat, asked, “Is there an opposite to that?”
I asked what she meant, and she asked if there was a term for sexual attraction but no romantic attraction. I told her about aromantics. She got weirdly quiet, then excused herself.
Not two weeks later I was heading to my boat. I was supposed to meet Bella and another one of our muteral friends there for a day of fishing.
As soon as I was in earshot, I saw Bella storming off the boat, and our other friend standing there like an idiot. Boi had no idea what was happening.
Anyway, Bella isn’t looking where she’s going and walks smack dab into me. That’s when I realized she was crying. Puffy red eyes, wet cheeks, the whole nine yards… And if you know anything about Bells, she does not cry. Ever.
She’s been through some serious crap in her life, and she does not cry. She’s tough as nails. Bella has a steel core. She does not not cry. I’ve seen her fall off a roof and break her arm before, not a single tear. I can’t stress this enough, Bella. Doesn’t. Cry.
So seeing her in tears shook me. I took her by the shoulders and escorted her somewhere more private where we could talk. We ended up in the women’s restroom, which was weird as fuck for me, because haven’t been in a woman’s rest room for years. Luckily it was empty, and I’m realistic, I know I don’t pass so well, so I don’t think anyone would have said anything anyway.
Before I can even ask her what’s wrong she hugs me around my middle and burys her face in my hoodie. Then, in a voice I can only describe as traumatized, she says, “I think I’m broken.”
I’ve never seen her in so much pain, and Bella and I are CLOSE. She’s one of my dearest friends. She’s like my little sister, but if she’s like my sister, our other muteral friend is like her twin. He and Bella have know each other WAY longer, they’re practically inseparable. They come as a pair. They’re a duo. They’re a package deal.
Appearently, said muteral friend asked Bella out and forcefully kissed her. She shoved him off, and told him she’s aromantic, which she only recently figured out. She wasn’t ready to be out, but this muteral friend left her no choice. She tried telling him no, and he didn’t listen. Bella saw no other option.
Quote on quote, this is what he said to Bella. “That’s okay. You just haven’t dated me yet. We’ve been like, unofficially together for years. You’re probably just freaked out that it’s finally going somewhere.”
After that I’m not 100% clear on what happened, but apparently Bella kept saying no Nd trying to explain herself, but he kept insisting he could ‘fix her.’
Eventudally she started crying and stormed away. That’s when I found her.
Keep in mind, this was her first experience coming out, and her best, closest friend insisted he could fix her and forcefully kissed her. I found out later he also implied corrective rape would ‘solve the problem.’
Bella was traumatized. She’s still traumatized. I tried to make her feel better by buying her an aro pride shirt, and taking her go a local LGBTQ+ hang out. I wanted her to be around like minded people, so she could see she wasn’t broken, and her identity deserved to be respected.
Instead of a warm, welcoming environment… The first thing someone said to her was, “This place is for REAL lgbt people. You don’t belong here.” He also implied she wasn’t human.
Just think about that for a minute. Her first experiences with being an out aromantic have been limited to;
A person she trusted more than anyone forcing himself upon her, claiming she was ill, and needed to be fixed. (Raped.)
Sobbing in my arms in the women’s restroom because she thought she was broken and defective.
Being told she wasn’t welcomed in LGBTQ+ spaces and called inhuman.
This isn’t what I want for her. Bella deserves better than this. She needs a support system, not all this crap. I’ve spent the past week trying to undo all the damage exclusionists, arophobes, and people she trusted did.
Aromantics and asexuals belong in the LGBTQ+ community. You literally cannot change my mind.
Did I already queue this? Dunno. But let me say that I’ve never stood by while gatekeepers try to well, gatekeep.
I didn’t put up with it as a teenager really into sci-fi, I didn’t put up with it from the dude bros in game and comic shops, and I certainly won’t stand for it in my LGBT+ community.
Aces and aros are welcome in my community.
You bet your ass that aces and aros are allowed here. And you can fight me if you don’t agree.
She plays first person shooter games and is really really good at them. She plays electric guitar and shreds like a beast. She loves death metal music, and even produces her own. She wears Hot Topic T-shirts and jeans. She doesn’t like dresses, but might wear a button-down top every now and then. She loves having the side of her hair buzzed short. She has a half-sleeve tattoo on her bicep that is Lovecraft-inspired. She has stretched earlobes, up to a 00g right now. She LARPs (live-action role plays) and kicks ass. She loves watching horror movies even though they scare her sometimes. She’s into girls and wouldn’t turn one down in bed.
She’s transgender.
Now of course, there are the people who will take what I wrote and say, “Oh, well doesn’t sound like she’s really trans. Sound like she still likes a lot of guyish stuff so, like, is she sure…?”
But wait. If I had said all of these things about a cis girl, she sounds like a guy’s dream girl. How come after I said that she’s trans, suddenly people think there’s no way she could actually be a girl. If cis girls can like those things without their gender being questioned, so can trans girls.
It’s your friendly neighborhood autistic nonbinary pal Blake here again. And it looks like i have to do this which is what i don’t like doing the most. Coming up in a few days i have some bills to pay off, which is going to eat up all of my paycheck. Wanna know something else ? IT’S NOT GOING TO BE ENOUGH TO COVER EVERYTHING.
I have rent due tomorrow, November 30 and that is $300
I have a late car payment due, which can be anywhere from $400-500 depending
And I have to pay off an instrument i stupidly signed up to make payments for, which is around $140
I’m also paying off my one roommate for helping me cover the security deposit on our place
My total bank account right now is this
I only have $698.29 to cover almost $940 in bills. So please, I really need the help to pay for them. And to eat and drive to my job. Just whatever you can donate would be extremely appreciated. And if you can’t donate anything, just spread this around as much as you can.
paypal.me/bdennis717
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forgot to add my paypal when i did this because i was so stressed go me
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